Everything I need to know I learned from kayaking

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Everything I need to know…

Everything I need to know I learned from kayaking!  Crazy right?  I don’t really mean that literally, but I have learned some valuable lessons from kayaking.  Just the other day, I had the privilege of taking my kayak out on the lake.  It was something I hadn’t done for quite some time.  The reason I don’t go out as often as I’d like is it isn’t something that interests my husband.   Anyway, he gave in to  me the other day and I was happy that he did.  During our conversation about my love for kayaking, he asked me what the “lure” was?  His thoughts were:  it’s work, you can’t swim and you’re out there all alone.

For me kayaking is one of those things that I do and enjoy but never really put much thought into.  So, of course, since I was asked what the lure was, I decided to really give it some thought.  I realized the lure had nothing to do with the act of kayaking and everything to do with the benefits.  For me, kayaking is a small-scale retreat.  It’s something I can do when I don’t have a full weekend or week to retreat.  Kayaking gives me the opportunity to unplug, be alone with nature and with God.  It gives me the opportunity to feel His Presence on a deeper level without distraction.

Think about it, there’s really nowhere to go on a lake.  You can paddle to the middle, the far ends or along the shoreline but there’s  nowhere you “need” to be.   Anywhere you go is peaceful, quiet and an opportunity to revel in God’s creation.  For the time that I’m out on the lake, I think of nothing else but the present moment.  It’s just me and Him in the silence and beauty of creation.  There’s power in stillness on that lake!   THAT’S  the lure!

When I went out on the kayak, I realized it was not as calm as in the past.  This meant more paddling for me if I wanted to keep the kayak straight and actually get somewhere.  At one point I reached an area of the lake where I decided I was going to stop paddling and let the current take me wherever.  I must have sat for 15 minutes without paddling.  In those 15 minutes, my kayak remained still and centered.  Being in that stillness and not having to work to get anywhere was so peaceful.  The sun shining on my face made me smile.

Lesson #1:  Peace and joy come from giving up resistance and remaining centered on Christ.

I couldn’t resist the feeling of being out on the lake, so I decided to go back the following week.  This time, I decided to paddle along the shoreline and keep a lookout for wildlife.   I figured I’d take my phone – not for communication purposes – but for access to a camera just in case I saw something interesting.   As I coasted along the shoreline, I saw a few turtles hanging around on driftwood.  I reached inside my pocket to find that my phone was missing!  Where could it have gone?  I put it in the pocket of my life vest before I took off.

Lesson #2:  Don’t forget to zip up the pocket after you put your phone in!  LAUGH OUT LOUD!  What happened exactly?  As I put my life jacket on, my phone fell into the lake (I didn’t realize this until my dad replayed a video he took of me paddling out).  Bummer, right?  WRONG!

The lesson for me is God’s is always calling. I find that there are often ideas and thoughts that pop into my head. I know God must have placed them there because they’re not usually something I would think of on my own.  For example: I had been thinking about what it would be like to detach from some things in my life.  In particular, I was thinking of my cell phone.  I was too attached.  Checking emails, texting, browsing Facebook, etc.  I found myself being consumed by this darn “smartphone” and distracted by being too easily accessible to the world.

The thought of detaching from my cell phone came and went.  Each time, I had an excuse for why it wouldn’t work out for me to get rid of my cell phone.  The truth of the matter is I really don’t NEED it, I just wanted it.  It makes my life easier having everything I want at my fingertips.  So there went the thought of detaching several times, UNTIL……………..I was forced to.  Then the message came in loud and clear – YOU NEED TO DETACH!  So I have.  One week later, the phone has not been replaced and I do not miss it.  As a matter of fact, I’m less distracted and anxious and feel free as a bird.

So the real lesson #2 – Listen to God’s whisper because the lesson is going to come regardless of whether you’re willing to listen or not.  A whisper is so much better than a thump on the head.

Before losing my phone I was falling for all available cultural distractions (Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, emails and texting).  I was one of those people who needed to respond to an email as soon as I received it.  I expected the same in return.  My obsession with checking my phone left little time for the other things I wanted and needed to do.  While I still made time to pray, I didn’t pray as much as I would have liked.  I certainly didn’t have the time I needed to be inspired, let alone inspire others.  While I knew something needed to change, I refused to believe it could.  How wrong I was!

Lesson #3 – detachment from the distractions of this world will allow you to lead a Christ centered life.  I’m reminded of the Medieval Wheel of Fortune which illustrates and states vice versa “a Christ centered life will ‘detach’ you from the fast edge of the wheel.”

I understand how truly blessed I am to have a life that affords me the opportunity to give up my cell phone “cold turkey” and be ok.  I understand that it’s not so easy for most, such as parents or business owners.   The truth of the matter is cell phones haven’t been around forever and yet parents were able to raise children without them and business owners were able to run their businesses without them.

Are there any thoughts coming to you that you’ve been ignoring?  Is there something in your life that you know is a distraction from all that is good?  Are you willing to listen to God’s whisper?  Will you try to fully detach from at least one worldly distraction?  Try kayaking.  God bless you!

Weeds Among the Wheat – Matthew 13:24-43

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Weeds among the wheat

Weeds Among the Wheat – Matthew 13:24-43

When I read the first part of this Gospel, I came up with my “own” interpretation of who  or what I though Jesus was referring to in the parable.  However, further on in the Gospel Jesus himself outlines the “cast of characters.”  He explains them as follows:

Sower of good seed – Jesus

Enemy – evil one

Good seed – children of the Kingdom

Weeds – children of the evil one

Harvest – end of the age

Harvesters – angels

Jesus’ explanation is what I like to refer to as “the big picture” – an explanation that humankind can  understand and relate to.  As students of the word and followers of Christ, we can’t stop there.  God speaks to each one of us through Scripture.  While pondering a particular verse several people can receive a different message.  So how does this Gospel speak to you on an individual/personal level?  Here’s how it spoke to me:

Sower – devout children of God

Enemy – evil one

Good seed – virtues of faith, hope and love

Weeds – turmoil/ suffering in life

Harvest – perseverance/light at the end of the tunnel

Harvesters – community of believers/brothers and sisters in Christ

True followers of Christ are sowers of good seed.  They share their faith, hope in Christ and love their neighbors. They witness to the Truth by the way they live.  This, in no way, means that true followers of Christ are shielded or spared from experiencing suffering in this life.  Suffering takes many forms.  It can be as simple as our over-thinking a situation, living with envy and jealousy in our hearts or feeling less than good enough – all situations that make us feel uneasy.  Suffering can be as complex as the tragic loss of a loved one, a failed marriage or some form of abuse.

I can go on for days about what suffering can be but the point I want to make is this: even Christ, the Son of God was not immune from suffering.  I think our first reaction to suffering is to make it go away or run away from it.  What I hear Jesus telling us through this parable is suffering is a “right of passage” if you will.  We shouldn’t try to make it go away or run away from it but sit through it.  If there is anything Christ modeled for us after his crucifixion was perseverance through the Resurrection.

One thing I can attest to is the power of prayer.  Through our family of believers (harvesters) interceding for us we gain the strength to endure and persevere (harvest) through suffering.  Instead of losing faith and asking why we suffer,  we should be asking ourselves “What is this meant to teach me?”  “Am I being called to increased humility?”  “Am I being called to trust more?”   You get the point.

After meditating on the various ways we suffer, I came to the realization that our suffering stems from our expectations and our desire for certitude in life.  We expect to grow old with our spouse, we expect that our lives should be “perfect” as depicted often on television, etc.  We desire to live our lives free of doubt.  Unfortunately, sometimes our lives don’t turn out as we planned and our deepest desires are never realized.  Therein lies the source of our suffering.

Of course, God always provides me with a theme in my reading.  Shortly after reading the Gospel I came across a meditation by Richard Rohr on the subject of certitude, which ties this all together.

Welcome Darkness and Mystery
Wednesday, July 19, 2017

There are commonly two kinds of human beings: there are people who want certitude and there are people who want understanding; and these two often cannot understand one another.

Those who demand certitude out of life will insist on it even if it doesn’t fit the facts. Logic has nothing to do with it. Truth has nothing to do with it. “Don’t bother me with the truth—I’ve already come to my conclusion!” If you need certitude, you will surround yourself with your conclusions.

The very meaning of faith stands in stark contrast to this mind-set. I think Jesus (or the Father or Spirit) is actually dangerous if taken outside of the Trinity. Jesus held separate from the other members of the Trinity implies that faith is a static concept instead of a dynamic and flowing one.

We’ve turned faith into certitude when, in fact, this Trinitarian mystery is whispering quite the opposite: we have to live in exquisite, terrible humility before reality. In this space, God gives us a spirit of questing, a desire for understanding; it seems to me it’s only this ongoing search for understanding that will create compassionate and wise people.

If you think you have a right to certitude, then show me where the Gospel ever promised or offered you that. If God wanted us to have evidence, rational proof, and perfect clarity, the incarnation of Jesus would have been delayed till the invention of audio recorders and video cameras.

Rational certitude is exactly what the Scriptures do not offer us. They offer us something much better and an entirely different way of knowing: an intimate relationship, a dark journey, a path where we must discover for ourselves that grace, love, mercy, and forgiveness are absolutely necessary for survival in an uncertain world. You only need enough clarity and ground to know how to live without certitude! Yes, we really are saved by faith. People who live in this way never stop growing, are not easily defeated, and frankly, are fun to live with.

You can tell mature and authentic faith by people’s ability to deal with darkness, failure, and non-validation of the ego—and by their quiet but confident joy! Infantile religion insists on certainty every step of the way and thus is not very happy.

Gateway to Silence:
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. —Proverbs 3:5

To the question of whether he wanted them to pull the weeds from among the wheat, the householder responds ‘No, if you pull up the weeds you might uproot the wheat along with them.’  Get the message?  When we run away or try to control the source of our suffering, it’s like pulling the weeds and uprooting the wheat – we lose sight of the lesson we are meant to learn, we lose the opportunity to grow.  Sadly, we miss the opportunity to join our suffering to Christ’s and truly becoming one with Him!  Will you continue to run or will you begin to embrace the lesson? God bless you!